Monday, January 26, 2009

Mothering Myself


I just finished reading "Women's Bodies, Women's Health" by Dr. Christiane Northrup and I thought I would share this poem. It really moved me...to tears actually..especially at the end. You may wonder what any of this has to do with nutrition - it doesn't really but it has to do with health - mind, body and spirit and they all play a major role in our health.

Mothering Myself
In a society preoccupied with how best to raise a child
I'm finding a need to mesh what's best for my children with what's necessary for a well balanced mother.
I'm recognizing that ceaseless giving translates into giving myself away.
And, when you give yourself away, you're not a healthy mother and you're not a healthy self.
So, now I'm learning to be a woman first and a mother second.
I'm learning to just experience my own emotions
Without robbing my children of their individual dignity by feeling their emotions too.
I'm learning that a healthy child will have his own set of emotions
and characteristics that are his alone.
And, very different from mine.
I'm learning the importance of honest exchanges of feelings because pretenses don't fool children, they know their mother better than she knows herself.
I'm learning that no one overcomes her past unless she confronts it.
Otherwise her children will absorb exactly what she's attempting to overcome.
I'm learning that words of wisdom fall on deaf ears if my actions contradict my deeds.
Children tend to be better impersonators that listeners.
I'm learning that life is meant to be filled with as much sadness and pain as happiness and pleasure.
And allowing ourselves to feel everything that life has to offer is an indicator of fulfillment.
I'm learning that fulfillment can't be attained through giving myself away
But, through giving to myself and sharing with others,
I'm learning that the best way to teach my children to live a fulfilling life is not by sacrificing my life.
It's through living a fulfilling life myself.
I'm trying to teach my children that I have a lot to learn
Because I'm learning that letting go of them
Is the best way of holding on.
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How it all began

When I was a child my grandfather always had the most amazing garden. His whole back yard was the garden and it was wonderful. I loved every vegetable that he grew - he even grew his own summer savory which apparently isn't that easy to do. Anyway, Grampy helped me put in my first garden and gave me all the tips. I couldn't believe how much work it was. It takes a lot of dedication and love. Sadly, he is gone now but I remember all the love that went into the garden and how even when I was a bit older and I would visit, he would fill the trunk of my car with veggies and I would have to go around my apartment building and share with others as there was no way I could eat all of it before it went bad.

I think my interest in health was part Grampy and part my father. My dad was a health nut when no one else was (that I knew of anyway) I am talking back in the 1970's. I don't think a lot of people knew about some of the stuff that my dad would talk about. He referred to white sugar as "poison"..ok, a little extreme but you get the point. Dad would eat a teaspoon of honey and a teaspoon of bran every day. I think this is important because my father was given six months to live when he was 19 years old and he managed to live until he was 44 with many health complications. I cannot say for sure but paying attention to what he put into his body as far as his food went, may have bought him some very valuable time.

Then comes my mom who was so devoted to my father and continues to be even though he passed away in 1981. I witnessed her nurse him back to health many times and she was the rock that held everything together. She is an amazing woman and I know he would be very proud of her for how she handled everything when he had to leave. My mom had to experiment with recipes to make them adaptable for dad's diet. He was on dialysis and could not consume any salt. If you have never had regular food without any salt - take it from me, it can be pretty bland. She was very creative and she did it with lots of love....

So for Grampy, Dad and for my mom who helped create that passion in me.............

Me with my mom in the garden 40+ years ago

Getting Started


This blogspot is titled "Fiber Fanatic" because after a lot of reading and research (there is so much out there) I think our lifestyles need to focus more on our fiber intake. Eating foods that are high in fiber are the ones that are better for you anyway. Also, you need to keep in mind that 1 gram of carbohydrates = 4 calories, 1 gram of protein= 4 calories, 1 gram of fat = 9 calories, 1 gram of alcohol = 7 calories and 1 gram of fiber = 0 calories. We don't often hear this...seems like everyone is counting calories and fat grams. Don't get me wrong, you still need to have a reasonable intake of calories divided into carbs, proteins, fat, etc but you can be full for much longer if you eat fiber rich foods. Fiber is the part of food that cannot be digested...that is why it has no calories. It is a type of complex carbohydrate. Fiber can be found in vegetables, fruits, seeds, nuts, legumes and grains.It is well known that Canadians eat too little fiber (on average 12 grams per day) and we should be eating 35 grams a day. It is possible to go as high as 60 but I don't ever get close to that...35 is fine but shoot for 35 each and every day. To begin...increase a bit each day and drink lots of water and if you like, herbal teas. If you increase too quickly, you may experience gas and bloating. I would suggest switching from white pasta to whole wheat pasta, white bread to 100% whole grain or 100% whole wheat bread and switch from white rice to brown. Making small changes will make a big difference and it may be easier to change gradually instead of all at once.